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Internationally, chivalry is still one of the primary characteristics associated with the quintessential English male. That and loutishness. Over the years the bowler hat-tilting English gent has been joined by another international stereotype: the Brit abroad. So how did this change come about? And if internationally English manners are regarded as being on the wane, how do English men see themselves?
Figures arrived at yesterday by dating website Dating Direct.com would seem to suggest that some remnants of old fashioned male charm may still linger within the UK. Well, at least they do if you ask British men themselves. Of the 1,000 UK adult males polled, over half (56 per cent) said they ‘enjoy’ picking up the bill after dinner and over a third (34 per cent) say they will frequently defend a woman’s honour. Frequently? Are we talking fisticuffs or pistols at dawn? I am embarrassed to confess that I fall into the lily-livered 66 per cent, who would rather shuffle off quietly than take matters outside when my lady’s virtue is at issue. Perhaps that is why I am presently single. The most surprising statistic of all however was that 13 per cent of men still stand up when a lady enters or leaves the room. Who are these people? Liars I presume. I don’t believe 13 per cent of the population stands to give their seat to an elderly person on public transport, let alone to herald the entrance of a female to a room.
Gentlemen, they say, prefer blondes, but do blondes prefer gentlemen? As St George’s Day came and went, Times Online caught up with relationship psychologist and advice columnist for AOL, Susan Quilliam to ask her what place chivalry has in contemporary Britain.
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Chivalry was a myth. The dark ages were extremely unchivalrous and elitist. It's been replaced by a much better ideal: mutual respect. There's a mayhem on the streets, but, as one who in his dotage does a lot of walking about the city, I see a lot of mutual respect about.
Kevin Straw, Leicester,
<i> "We still love a guy who ... makes us feel like a princess" </i> Jennifer Hamilton, London.
A princess? That doesn't sound like equality to me.
Will you treat me like a prince?
George, Sarajevo, Bosnia
Chivalry is dead. It was murdered in its sleep by feminism.
Mark Hardligon, London,
Now that the boundaries have changed in terms of equality, chivalry should no longer be about 'protecting' a woman (in trivial situations should as walking on the footpath) but about consideration for all people such as getting up from one's for an elder or holding the door open for a man or woman.
Marie, Paris,
Chivalry? Sexism? Feminism? I wouldn't worry your pretty little heads about it.
Eric Skelton, Cardiff, Wales
I personally think that chivalry is something very important for mthe majority of women in our society. I agree with her when she says that opening the door politetly and gently can be the starting point of a romance. Our social behaviour has a psychological underlying meaning.
Angel Villares, CACERES, SPAIN
Polite male offers woman his seat, she silently accepts. ''Beg pardon," says the man. "I didn't say anything' woman replies. "My mistake", says man, 'I thought you said
Thank you."
John DEAN, Perth, Western Australia, Australia
I honestly feel that a little bit of old fashion values is a bad thing so lets return to holding doors or chairs as they sit and generally being polite to Ladies ,
Sadly theres a younger type of girl about that are rough neck type and i find it hard doing it for them ,respect is earnt .
Tony Winchester, Southend, G.B.
Talk about sexist. thank god shivalry is dead, there is not enough room for the sexist feminism and the sexist idea that men should be shivalrous as well.
What is it that women do for men chivalry based, valentines ect. Nothing. The days of just being a woman is over over over.
Steve, Sydney, Australia
I actually find chivalry deeply sexist, because it is the preferential treatment of one gender over another. Most women wouldn't accept negative discrimination. Why would they feel entitled to positive discrimination? You can't have it both ways.
John F, London,
I prefer redheads, smart & beautiful. Perhaps i should move to the uk n hook in with some rangas there
mike, melbourne, australia,
I don't think they find it Patronizing at all. We still love a guy who is chivalrous and makes us feel like a princess so carry on boys! I'm all for men holding the door open and treating the ladies . . .it's nice to see that it still does happen.
Jennifer Hamilton, London,
Modern women consider this patronizing , don't they? At least they do 'officially' because it would be seen as treating women differently. Or is it a case yet again of women saying they want one thing but actually wanting something else deep down? My guess is the later. Make up your mind, "luv".
Andy, South , UK